When porn is made for women, it is not in your face,
It knows to take its time, to move with style and grace.
When porn is made for women, they aren't penetrated too soon,
Men and women alike know how to make her swoon.
When porn is made for women, they know better than to force,
They know it's more arousing to let nature take its course.
When porn is made for women, it's gentle, it's soft,
Never does it prioritize just getting the man off.
It’s no secret that I am a lover of porn, but did you know I haven’t watched anything made after 1989 (with the exception of three productions I will not mention because I cannot positively review) in more than two years? Even as an avid porn consumer, I just cannot bring myself to consume the new stuff. It’s either too long, too sex-oriented, not sexy enough, or the lighting or acting is a letdown relative to the old stuff. I think this is a disservice, and especially to women because it trains us to think we don’t like porn, or we need to read erotica to get off just because we are being ignored as a consumer base.
That said, that doesn’t mean I think all Golden Age films are great either. Far too many show penetration before the woman is ready, prioritize quantity over quality when it comes to sex scenes, or forget basic film musts like music, lighting, and a decent script.
But I recently watched two films that are exemplars, and I want to lift them up. In this post, I’ll focus on the first one, Angels of Passion, starring Tracey Adams, Jessica Wylde, and Steve Drake. This film doesn’t sleep on the details: the music, the lighting, the acting, and the script are all great. Let’s talk about what sets it apart as one of my favorite films of all time.
Angels Of Passion (1986)
The plot of Angels of Passion is much like that of Down to Earth, a 2001 comedy starring Chris Rock and Regina King that I absolutely loved as a child. If you haven’t seen either, let me cut to the chase and tell you about Angels of Passion: Three lovers die and become angels, and their job is to visit still-living humans and bring them pleasure. It features a small cast, meaning each person only fucks one to three people, lots of humor, and extremely sexy sex. But why is it, to me, made for women? Two reasons.
1) The film features men with reasonable sized dicks
Too often in porn we see absolutely outrageous dick sizes. Annette Haven once said that fucking the legendary John Holmes was like fucking “a loofah.” Why!? Why do men with huge members get precedent in porn? FOR MEN.
As the joke goes, if John ever got fully erect he’d lose consciousness from lack of blood to the brain, because his dick was that big. And it’s true that his cock was never hard. It was like doing it with a big, soft kind-of loofah.
-Annette Haven, (source)
When the men in a film have reasonable-sized cocks, a few things happen. One, I think the women on set relax. They don’t spend the whole scene fearing being penetrated, and that helps them become more naturally aroused and lubricated. Two, the sex acts are hotter because they are more akin to what we are used to in real life: the blowjobs look like our blowjobs and can even teach us something, and, the cocks are easier to deep-throat. Three, the men are typically more skilled lovers. I can’t prove it, but in my experience, men with big dicks are obsessed with using them; the pleasure becomes fairer and more equal when it’s not all about penetration.
2) The film honors women’s arousal ladder
It’s well known that women typically take about 20 minutes to reach the heights of their arousal. Sure, we can move faster, but generally, the yoni needs time to relax, set down the to-do list and thoughts of pleasing and performing, and allow the blood to engorge her into puffy-wet softness. Angels of Passion, more so than any film I’ve watched, explicitly encourages men to take their time arousing a woman before penetrating her. It follows two men (actors Tom Byron and Greg Rome), each of whom is being left by their woman because he cannot satisfy her in bed. The angels come to their aid, instructing them to wait: “You have to learn to take your time. . . Avoid your first impulse. Go Slow.”
In this film you will see not one, not two, but three women cream. That’s what happens when we wait and honor what a woman’s body needs. No dry pussies in this film. Hooray! The loving approach pays off. The whole film is basically an instructional for men to allow women the time they need, empower them to lead and ask for what they want. The men do orgasm, but so do the women. Check it out.
Later, Steve Drake (playing Larry) will pleasure a lonely secretary who pines for her boss. He encourages her to be confident, love her body, and to be brave enough to go after what she wants in life. At the end of the sex session (where she creams), he asks, “Do you feel better about yourself now?” She smiles, “Yes.”
And this is the beauty of sex. This is the potential lovemaking brings! It should make us–both men and women–feel good about ourselves! It should increase our confidence, bring us relaxation, and help us carry that sense of contentment with life and ourselves with us outside the bedroom and into the world. In this way, porn that misses these details–namely women’s pleasure–is missing a huge opportunity! It’s forgetting the most important thing about why we make erotic art: To lift people up.
Stay tuned for part two, where I celebrate another film, A Portrait of Seduction (1976), and my one of my favorite male porn stars of all time: Jon Martin.
With love to you and hoping you can be your own angel,
Honey 😘😘
