“Do you want to play?” These are the magic words. If you are interacting with a couple and you want to play with them, these words will bridge the gap between whatever you are doing now (dancing, flirting, caressing or kissing) and actually playing.
It may seem obvious, but it’s harder than it looks. To ask, you must face and overcome the fear of the possibility they say no. Usually there are signs that they will say yes: for example, biting their lips, lots of energy or fidgeting, continuing to touch you, wanting to kiss again and/or not excusing themselves after you kiss. Look for these signs if you are unsure, but know that if these signs aren’t present that doesn’t mean they don’t want to play. They are likely just as nervous as you are.
Asking is also a responsibility that typically falls on the couple with more power in the moment. If you are the hotter or more sought-after couple, the other couple is going to be looking to you to lead and ask. Also, if you are new, you may need to ask. This may seem counterintuitive, but as a newbie, people aren’t going to want you to feel pressured in any way. Be prepared to ask, and you can be confident the other couple will say yes if they’ve shown enthusiasm about you. (And if they don’t say yes, it’s almost certainly nothing personal. Be proud of yourself for being brave!)
So, if you walk away from a situation that you thought was going well and didn’t end up in play, consider that this happened because you didn’t ask. Say it with me! “Do you want to play?”
Kisses and well wishes,
Honey